On August 2, 2019, my Mom, Frances, gained her wings. She had spent the last 6 years of her life at Lake Forest Park, her last 5 months in Memory Care. I would like to express my sincere thanks and appreciation to the Staff. They are all truly phenomenal caregivers. From the receptionist, to the hairdresser to the laundry staff, to housekeeping, to maintenance, to the kitchen staff. They are all just such wonderful, caring people. I have to mention here the extremely kind gesture from the kitchen staff who came to mom's room to see her just before she passed. Mom passed soon after. Just after the Crisis Care nurse called me, she held the phone to Mom's ear and I got to tell her for the last time that I loved her, and my 2 sisters loved her. One half-hour into my drive over to see her, she passed but heard those last words "I Love You". Also, I want to give a big thanks to Ryan, Virginia, and Stephanie who made sure mom was taken to any activities she was able to take part in. Last, but not least, the kind, caring and loving nursing staff who treated Mom as if she was a member of their own family. All the CNA's (sorry I have forgotten names and apologize) are all exceptional people whom I've gotten to know and love. It meant the world to me and my family. Again, thanks to all. I will never forget your kindness to me. It is absolute proof that angels walk among us. I will keep you all in my prayers, and may God bless you abundantly.
Living With a Purpose Back
In many ways, having a purpose in life directly correlates with one’s overall satisfaction and happiness, better physical functioning, and better sleep! Dr. Patricia Boyle, a neuropsychologist at the Rush Alzheimer’s Disease Center in Chicago says that having purpose is “a very robust predictor of health and wellness in old age.” The Rush Center also reported that purpose in life, all by itself, appears to have a potent ability to improve and extend lives.
So what does living with a purpose mean? If your strength and mobility is declining as your dependence on others increases, it may seem difficult to understand what your purpose in life may be now. There are many ways you can find purpose in your life by making a contribution to others around you that will help you extend beyond yourself. Here are a few ideas you may want to explore if you are looking for ways to fill your life with purpose:
- Mentoring
- Passing your experiences or memories on to younger people
- Spending more time on activities you enjoy (i.e. a sport or a craft)
- Using your work skills in a new way
- Taking care of grandchildren
- Volunteering in and around your community
- Writing your life history and sharing it with loved ones
Setting small goals to find more meaning in life will motivate you to keep going, and to keep trying. Eleanor Roosevelt once said that, “the purpose of life is to live it, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.” Often times, a sense of purpose will arise from learning something new, working together with others, making new social connections when others are lost, and accomplishing a new goal. If it is time to redefine your purpose in life, go at your own pace and take time to explore as many options as you need. Finding fulfillment is a process; it comes from deep within and it is long-lasting.